9 days of freedom, sweet liberty obtained by clearing off my annual leaves. It is hilarious the way words and its meaning interpreted as it travels from one person to another. My buddies made a wicked joke about me ignoring them whenever there were girls around and one classic example that was often brought up each time we are slacking around at a mamak would be the time i was in Jonker with a group of girls ,enjoying the music , chit chatting in Geographer and i bumped into two of my friends.
My friends came over and i stood up, walked towards them and started doing the hand shake { the sort of hand shake that is done each time we bump into our friends at the club or at the mall} and i asked them if they would like to join us? or should i catch up with them later? and one of my friends responded that they would catch up with me for they wanted to walk around. However,after that incident, it became a different set of story. As the story goes, I was with a bunch of girls and upon bumping into my friends i pretended that i didn't know them, gave them a handshake for them to leave.
Well, i admit that i was hoping that they wouldn't stay at that point of time for they love to joke around without boundaries and those girls might not be able to accept their sense of humor. However, i didn't chase them away nor did i pretend that i've not seen them for a long time for i have just seen them like a couple of days ago.
It seemed pretty awkward to my friends for we hang out often and we have never practised the hand shakes among us and all of a sudden i'm shaking their hands . Haha, it was true that i was not behaving as i would normally behave around them. Yet, it doesn't mean that i was playing someone else. I have other friends too and with other friends whenever we meet, we'll do the handshake as a sign of respect each time we crosses each other , be it close friends or strangers.
My point is, its not a big deal. Its the way i show respect towards others . It is like saying hi or Yo!
Another incident that really humors me would be this friend of mine that kept questioning me about brotherhood and kept highlighting that it is important for me to introduce girls to my friends that are bachelors. It is some kind of code among brothers ..haha. I thought only Ray would keep asking me about the birds and the bees but it turns out that another friend of mine also seemed to have the impression that i have the answers to his questions.
I often replied by saying that i am no master player, nor am i a cassanova to begin with, i am just an ordinary guy with ambitious dreams. My friend couldn't accept the fact that an ordinary dude like myself could attract girls by doing nothing while a good looking dude like himself couldn't do it the same way{ he self proclaimed to be good looking}
My answer was just plain and simple. I do not have techniques to teach, i have no strategies that i pre-planned and i certainly do not have any hidden secrets. I am just being myself and the only difference between me and most of other guys around, is that whenever i am with a girl i do not see them as a sex product but i look at them as a lady.I didn't answer his question that day for i didn't know how?
How am i to explain to a dude that sees every girl he dates as an opportunity to have sex , that it isn't necessary to get into every girl's pants as a sign of conquest or as a proof that she's been dating me.I do not see this as a game therefore i have nothing to prove. It is natural for humans to have sex but in my point of view it has to be out of love and not just out of lust. Out of love simply means, upon having sex one is already prepared to take full responsibility towards another. This is me, this is how i have felt each time i made love.
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